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How is it that some people are so confident in their own abilities that nobody even questions their capabilities? How is it that some people who really aren't that great at some things really believe that they are, and are able to have complete confidence in themselves?

Me, I'm not much good at (or for) anything, and I have the lack of confidence to back it up. Even if I were halfway decent at something, I wouldn't know how to go about acting like I was.

Is confidence something a person either has, or hasn't? Can it be developed or cultivated or learned? I know that Tony Robbins and some of those other late nite TV infomercial people say you can, but I've read a number of their books, and in general when I'm done I end up feeling worse than before. So, I dunno, y'know?

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pastilla
Jun. 9th, 2005 10:57 am (UTC)
What a great post. I was thinking about it on and off all day yesterday. One of the things I liked about living in Japan was that there was no pressure to project 100% confidence in anything. In fact, it was considered quite immature and unseemly to do so. I quite agree with that attitude; it's sad to see how many confident fools out there convinced they have talent when they don't (think American Idol), and willing to give unspectacular opinions on any topic (think talk radio). Eventually that attitude will always come back and bite you in the bum.

I'm not a super confident person either, but maybe confidence isn't the goal. Maybe it's more about re-defining a personal definition of success -- feeling good about wherever you are on life's path-- letting go of past ghosts of who you wanted to be --- and instead looking at what you're doing right now -- feeling good about doing your best with what you've been given ---

End of rambling . . .



davidd
Jun. 9th, 2005 07:38 pm (UTC)
Insightful rambling greatly appreciated, and useful, since my current class assignment is a 1500 word "Self-assessment and Reflection paper in which you. . . assess your strengths and opportunities for growth, and create an improvement strategy based on this assessment."

"Opportunities for growth." Isn't that just an ever-so-positive and pro-active way to say "faults, weaknesses, and shortcomings." Isn't there a well-worn quote, something to do with "a rose by any other name?"

Living in Japan sounds fascinating, and challenging. I hope that more insights -- and toilet commercials -- from that phase of your life find their way into your LJ musings.
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